When Taurus and Leo come together in a love affair, they can be a great couple because they know how to stroke one another's egos and love to have their own stroked! They have similar needs: Taurus needs plenty of affection, to be loved and cherished, while Leo likes compliments and wants to be adored and admired. They're both extremely loyal and possessive lovers. Since they have such similar desires, they can generally provide for one another's needs quite well. These two Signs both love status and possessions. They prize physical comfort and luxury; Leo is often flamboyant about attentions and gift-giving, which will greatly please Taurus, who loves the most traditional forms of courtship. Though they can work together quite well, it's not all roses between these two; both Signs are very stubborn and must work hard to understand and accept one another. Taurus is ruled by the Planet Venus (Love and Money) and Leo is ruled by the Sun (Self). The Sun radiates warmth and light; Leo indeed radiates this kind of energy and enthusiasm. Venus is about love, beauty and luxury. This combination of masculine and feminine energy helps these two Signs admire and sustain one another. As a matter of fact, Venus is never more than 48 degrees from the Sun, so they belong close together! The Sun represents life and Venus represents love; as long as they are careful to understand each other, their combination is a positive one. Taurus is an Earth Sign and Leo is a Fire Sign. They are both ambitious but in quite different ways. Leo longs for fame and fortune, while Taurus strives for security and stability in life and love. Since both these Signs expect to be the boss, they may tend to battle for domination. During arguments, Taurus abhors conceding a point, seeing it as acceptance of domination -- unless they see that it's the practical course. Their battles can be fierce and epic, but as long as both of them can be reassured that the relationship is important to their partner, things will go more smoothly. Taurus and Leo are both Fixed Signs. This means they're both stubborn; once they make up their minds about something, it takes a lot to get them to change it. That's why their arguments can get so intense -- both of them truly believe they're right and that theirs is the only right way to look at an issue! They also both tend to shy away from change; they like to get things settled and then let them continue on as is indefinitely -- even if something could be improved. If they decide that they want their love relationship to stay, almost nothing will convince them to leave their partner. This is good for the stability of the relationship but can be bad if the relationship is destructive or inhibitive. What's the best aspect of the Taurus-Leo relationship? Their mutual admiration. Both Signs have very powerful personalities, so neither will dominate the other -- no matter how hard they try! Others see them as an excellent match as they share the commitment to fulfilling their goals.

July 22, 2007

Pisces (Feb 19 - Mar 20)

No matter which way you are swimming, the current seems always to be going the other way. It feels like everyone is working against you. Whatever you do, step around that all too familiar Piscean victim consciousness. You really don't have time or energy to waste on such selfish behavior. Everything is about to change and you need to be ready to take advantage of it.

Legend:  Pink for me, blue for him (he was born on the Leo/Virgo cusp... definitely a Leo though, most definitely!). 

As the horoscope says, communication is going to be a bitch today!  There's no worry about me saying what's on my mind, and I know I'm going to be heard, and OH, how it is strained, but when one's as stubborn as the other, it's still not going to change the outcome... *sigh* what is one to do? 

My boyfriend sold our hot tub behind my back.  I have always dreamed of having a hot tub or pool or some sort of watery oasis... the fact that it came with the house was the best news to me.  I wanted to make a little sanctuary out there including a minibar to make frozen drinks, and music... so much for that... 

We weren't getting along the other day and I had an errand to run, and while I was out he sold it!  He has never wanted that hot tub.  He says they're gross because you're sitting in not only your own, but everyone else's filth.  I know it was in spite of me because I didn't think it was a good idea to go out and buy new toys for him (the hot tub CAME with the place, we didn't fork over money to buy it).  He has a whole slew of other reasons as well as why not to have it, which mainly come down to the following:

1.  The Electricity Bill... well, my comeback to that (believe me I ALWAYS have an answer/comeback every situation is well thought out in advance in my mind) if we find the bill too high, we'll stop using it for a while until we're caught up again, and that was fine.  I even agreed to maybe selling it in a year's time IF it was too much or we found we needed the money. 

 

2.  Child Safety... he has an issue with pools and children.  Firstly, the deck is not baby-proofed and therefore the baby is NOT to be on the deck until it is.  Secondly, when we do the baby proofing, a 3/4 fence will be constructed around the side of the hot tub that is accessible, including a locking gate.  Thirdly, the hot tub has a cover on it that is difficult to lift for me, a grown woman of 5'5, let alone a 2 1/2 foot toddler.  Fourthly, the patio door has a lock and can be further baby-proofed.  Fithly, the hot tub is taller than the baby.  Sixthly, the baby is never unsupervised, especially upstairs.  The majority of the time, he is in the rec room in the basement. 

 

Now here's the kicker, he says that he sold it so he could buy me a nice engagement ring.  He told me he was going to sell it for that reason before, but I told him I didn't need an expensive ring, I love the hot tub and it adds value to the house, plus we had an agreement to wait a year before considering selling it.  So after he sold it behind my back, and after a heated arguement about this ordeal, you can just imagine what else I said about a nice engagement ring... 

The hot tub is currently still sitting on our deck.  It's a guy he works with that bought it - he mentioned to everyone that he was thinking of selling it the minute we bought the house and it's been a bidding war at his work ever since; I still don't think he got enough out of it.  Anyway, he doesn't have the money yet either so I told him that he better tell the guy the tub is NOT for sale or I will, and he told me that the guy hired a contractor already (between Thursday night and Saturday morning he already had a contractor??).  Let's see, no money has been exchanged and the hot tub is still in our possession... hmmm... how about the contractor can be cancelled or the guy can find another hot tub to buy!!  I love him with all my heart, but I am so pissed off and I feel so betrayed about this.  I know there are worse things in life and others have it far worse than I do, and I do sound like a spoiled brat, but this is the only luxury I'll ever have and it's something I've always dreamed of.  To buy a new hot tub it would be 10-15 grand and I'll never have that kind of money just sitting around.  We had an agreement first, but he would rather be on good terms with his workcrew than me, which is a first because he never cares what others think of him, especially at work.  I feel like we have gone back in time about 60 years, or he has anyway, and since he's the man of the house, he feels he is the boss and whatever he has to say goes and that's that.  That just doesn't fly with me, not at all.  I've been a woman's right activist since I was at least 4 years old, when I'd protest that I should not have to pick-up after my older brother. 

      I think I'll go take a nap for now and try to calm down.  I had to write this down because I need to let the anger out - I try to not let it build up... actually, I can't let it build up, I never could hold my anger in, but on the fortunate side, I usually get over it as soon as I'm done blowing my lid (unfortunately, I usually end up hurting someone).  This time, I think it's going to take a while for me to calm down because we're both so stubborn and I feel really strongly about this, and I feel I'm not being taken seriously.  Hopefully, I'll be able to look back and laugh someday, it is just a hot tub, but it's the point that it was done behind my back that hurts the worst, and his inflexibility to admit he did wrong.  If he'd apologize, a sincere apology, I may be more accepting.  His pride seems to be all that matters though, not my feelings.  

Signing off,

Mindy